A United Kingdom-based writer and relationship commentator, Solomon Buchi, has advised popular social media personalities Peller and Jarvis to undergo marriage counselling before proceeding with their planned wedding, following a viral video that triggered widespread debate about the state of their relationship.
The video, which circulated widely on social media, captured the couple in a car discussing their future family. During the conversation, Peller excitedly expressed his desire to have children soon after marriage, saying, “My baby is coming soon,” but Jarvis firmly rejected the idea, insisting she was not ready to have a child.
When Peller asked why, Jarvis replied that he was “not organised,” suggesting she was unwilling to start a family under the current circumstances. The exchange quickly drew mixed reactions online, with many users expressing concern over what they described as visible tension between the couple ahead of their wedding.
Reacting to the video, Buchi said while he strongly supports young people getting married early, such decisions must be accompanied by emotional maturity, openness to correction and proper mentorship.
“I love early marriages when young people get married early, but I think that should come with a level of maturity, openness to advice and mentorship,” he said.
Sharing a personal example, Buchi revealed that his sister got married at the age of 22 while her husband was 25, noting that their marriage has remained successful for several years because both were willing to learn and receive guidance.
“My sister got married when she was 22. Her husband, who is my friend, was 25, and they’ve been married for over five years now, going to seven years, I believe, and they are very happy. I’ve seen them grow, but it requires people who are open to mentorship, people who are mature, and people who understand the gravity of what it means to build a family,” he said.
Buchi stressed that marriage is far more demanding than the glamorous image often portrayed on social media, warning that couples who focus only on online content creation without preparing for real-life responsibilities may struggle after the wedding.
“Marriage is a very serious institution. It’s more than streaming. It’s more than fooling around on social media. It’s more than cameras. It is going to stretch you,” he said.
Although he acknowledged that he did not know the full circumstances surrounding the viral exchange, Buchi said he found it worrying that a bride-to-be appeared so upset just weeks before marriage.
“I honestly don’t know what’s going on in that video, but I don’t think weeks to a wedding a woman should be that pissed off that she’s saying you can take back a car you got for her, no matter how annoyed she is. That shouldn’t be the response,” he said.
He urged the couple to seek professional counselling before tying the knot, warning that unresolved resentment could threaten the future of their marriage.
“If they are taking this marriage thing seriously, I think they should get some marriage counselling. I genuinely, and God sees my heart, I wish them the best. But this journey needs to be done with a multitude of good counsel because we honestly don’t want to hear some funny news shortly down the line. Get marriage counsel. Don’t get into marriage with resentment. And if you have unresolved resentment, postpone the marriage or cancel it,” Buchi advised.
He also cautioned against entering marriage with the expectation that a partner would eventually change, saying successful marriages are built on accepting one’s partner as they truly are.
“When you are getting married to someone, you are getting married to who they are and who they will become, or who they may never become. If you don’t like what they are right now, don’t get married to them with the hope of a change because they might never change. You’re not marrying based on the hope of potential. You must see the proof of who they are. Jarvis needs to accept Peller for who he really is, or just don’t marry him,” he added.
The viral video has continued to generate intense reactions across social media platforms, with users divided over whether the exchange reflected ordinary pre-marital disagreements or deeper relationship issues that should be addressed before the couple proceeds with their wedding.
